Who you surround yourself with matters. This is your sphere of influence so make sure those people inspire you to be more.


I’m a believer that people come into our lives, short term or long term, and there’s a purpose. There are times we fight to keep someone in our life when the purpose was for that person to serve us or teach us and then move on. There are times we push away those who are serving us by encouraging us to grow or get out of our comfort zone, because CHANGE IS HARD. 



Have you ever heard the phrase; you are the average of the five people you hang around with most? Who are those five people in your life? The five people you share your innermost thoughts, your dreams, your pain, looking for support, or encouragement? The five you’re the average of?  


Do they inspire you? Do they inspire you because of what they do in their life? They’re living with real joy and happiness and they’re creating a life that you believe is so amazing, you want to be more like them. Or are they people who bring you down? Who are stuck in life? Who create drama, or negative energy? I encourage you to really look at who you surround yourself with and how these people support you in your journey. 


Do you have people in your life who are straight up, toxic? When I say toxic, I mean abusive, create fear, put you down, say you’re worthless, you’ll never amount to anything or who spew negativity. If you have these people in your life, I HIGHLY ENCOURAGE you to make a decision about those who are toxic. Ask yourself, does this person belong in my life?  If not, why am I allowing him or her to stay in my life. Only you can decide.


You are on a healing journey and surrounding yourself with inspiring people who are positive, uplifting, encouraging, who offer you, support and resources is a top priority. This journey never ends. It’s a constantly evolving and growing journey, which is beautiful. Having the right people around you is a valuable gift. It’s important to note, not everyone must be an inspiration. Everyone contributes to your life in one form or another, positive or negative. Understanding what they bring to your life is the key.



As you go through this journey, you are learning and growing as a person. As you grow, you may notice a difference in your relationships. You may hear someone say you’re changing, or you may say, “that person never changes.”  It’s not them, it’s you. You’re changing! If, they’re not learning and growing, a gap will start to emerge. I call it a gap of purpose. 


Let me explain this. This person may have been instrumental in your life, but as you’ve grown, you need a higher level of inspiration to keep growing. The purpose of this person is no longer what it was. This isn’t a bad thing. It’s what may naturally occur when you grow, and others don’t. You may get to a point in your journey, where you start to leave some of these people behind. This might feel awkward or not good. It’s okay. Acknowledge, you’ve changed and evolved and need more in your life from people who are contributing to your continued learning and growth. 



Let’s talk about the inspiring people you want to be more like. I want to clarify “be more like” because I don’t want you to get this mixed up with comparison. When we admire somebody, and they have something, or they’ve achieved something, you want it, you can see it, you can taste it, but you haven’t done the work in between to have it. This is comparison thinking and not where you want to go. This thought process can create an expectation that you’re failing or you’re not good enough.


I’m talking about those people who inspire you to want more, to want more joy, want more freedom and peace in your life, because of how they carry themselves through life. I want to make sure you aren’t comparing yourself, but there are people you look up to, who can be a mentor, and a supportive teacher to you. It’s not envy, it’s inspiration to want more.


Surround yourself with people who inspire you.

Keep the friends who love you, inspire you, and encourage you close.

I’ve had some amazing people in my life through this journey. People who inspired me to want more. I’ve experienced how they can impact and help me change my life. These people helped bring me to where I am today. 


With that said, there are people in my life, who are still dear, dear friends, but they’re not the people I’m going to when I’m looking for a solution, or I’m stuck in my growth, and want to get over the next obstacle and level up. These are the people (friends) who I love and can have a great time with. I am friends with, share love, my heart and activities with and feel really good when we are together. However, when I’m looking to grow in my journey, and I want to be better, who in my life can I tap into for support and to give me the tools I need because they’ve experienced where I want to go. That’s what I’m talking about when I refer to, sphere of influence.



How do you find people to help you level up in your journey and healing? Who are the people who have experience and can give you the tools? I strongly encourage you to engage in community. Find groups of people who will support you, who are not afraid to share their experience, who are not afraid to share what they’ve been through. People you can really learn from their life lessons. Ask what are the books they read? What are the seminars they engage in? What type of coaches do they hire? Ask these questions. If there’s somebody you admire, ask them, post a message on their page, send them a private message in social media. Just ask. 


The tools are available to you. Seek them out. You will begin to surround yourself with people who will encourage your growth. You’ll be amazed at how much people want to share, when you ask. Really, it’s human nature to want to serve others. Just ask…

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